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Soulstrology Posts

Venus Retrograde October 5 - November 16 2018: Valuing yourself so you can be valued

Ambi Sitham


Hello lovely ones, I hope October is treating you well thus far….

So here we are, on the cusp of Venus Retrograde which begins officially this Friday October 5 2018 at 10 degrees of Scorpio and ends on November 16 2018 at 25 degrees of Libra.

Hopefully you will have all read the Venus in Scorpio - a prelude to the retrograde blog (posted September 10).

The last few weeks may have given you some insight as to what to expect from this particular Venus retrograde.

The slippery shadow period tends to do that as it brings to the surface the issues which then prove to be the crux of our retrograde experience.

If nothing appears to have happened so far then so be it.

But that doesn’t mean that nothing will pop up over the retrograde itself.

Remember, all these retrogrades are is an opportunity to reset ourselves in a particular area of life, or with regards to particular issues.

They are not a punishment. Even though, I will admit that sometimes they can feel that way!

So what themes will be coming up for each of us?

Well, regardless of our zodiac sign we need to know that all the themes ruled by Venus will be in the cosmic spotlight.

Love, abundance, creativity, beauty and socializing.

How we love.

Who we love.

How we receive love.

How we express ourselves.

Our artistic selves.

Our attitude towards beauty and our image.

Our social life.

What we do for pleasure (beauty, creativity, love)

Our relationship with receiving abundance (both love, finances and other forms of abundance).

With Venus retrograde in Scorpio and then Libra, the following themes also come up.


  • Sex and everything about it.

How we do it, when we do it, if we are doing it, if we aren’t doing it, and of course who we are doing it with (or not).

  • Joint finances (debts, loans, inheritances, taxes, investments, investors, mortgages, finances we hold with any other - be it a bank or a loved one)

  • What lies beneath the surface - psychological issues - around all of the above

  • Transformation - regarding all of the above, whether we are prepared to do it, how we are prepared to do it.

  • Death/endings/rebirth - regarding all of the above, what needs to die, what needs to end, what needs to die in its current format so it can be reborn


  • Relationships and partnerships of all kinds - personal, professional, romantic

  • How we interrelate with others (including co-dependency issues, energy exchanges etc)

  • How we handle conflict

  • How we socialize, who we socialize with etc

  • How we make decisions (or not)

  • Our relationship with ourselves

The above will give you lots of journal prompts to go inwards and ask yourself questions (and answer them honestly!) about these areas of life.

But remember that for each of us the Venus Retrograde will be taking place in a different part of our charts (see the Soulstrology zodiac guides below) so in many ways we can apply the general Soulstrology theme for this Venus Retrograde to the areas of life in our unique charts which are being impacted.

Asking yourself the following questions about the Scorpio and Libra ruled parts of your chart (read the guide for both your Sun and Rising sign).

Am I receiving fully in these areas of life?

Am I experiencing harmony fully in these areas of life?

Do I feel I shine both inwardly and outwardly in these areas of life?

Do I truly value myself in these areas of life?

Am I truly valued by others in these areas of life?

Am I expressing myself fully in these areas of life?

If we do not value ourselves properly, we cannot be properly valued by others and by life itself.

Like a mirror, life is reflecting back to us what we truly think about ourselves….

So we must value ourselves so we can be truly valued…

Now, I will be writing to you all more on this Venus retrograde but in the meantime here are a few tips and do’s and don’ts of sorts for this Venus retrograde.

  • Don’t panic. Easier said than done I know….but if life, creative matters, finances or your love life takes a sudden topsy turvy change, just sit tight and ride it out…

  • Do look at what comes up, even if painful, and do dive deep into it, not looking at the external situation (or pointing the finger at the other) but looking within at the internal circumstances which may have created the external situation

  • Don’t make a sudden decision on love, creativity or financial matters - if you do, you may change your mind once the retrograde is over

  • Do be open to reconciliations. Even if you need to reconcile to know it isn’t quite right, be open to returning to a past love, whether that is for final closure or a fresh start

  • Don’t have a sudden image change (or get work done to yourself - no judgment at all by the way - but this isn’t the right time for minor or major cosmetic enhancement!) as you may regret it afterwards

  • Do review your wardrobe and consider a rehaul, not necessarily filling it back up but more emptying it out of things which no longer ‘fit’ you.

  • Don’t make big, expensive purchases, you may regret them in time to come

  • Do recommit to an existing love, creative project or financial endeavor

  • Don’t get overly gung ho about a new love interest who comes during this time. Yes it can work out because if this is your person, it’s your person. But only the end of year (once the shadow is over) will determine that. So enjoy but be cautiously optimistic!

Whew, that’s lots for you all to work with but I am going to be back with more over the retrograde….just to help you all get the most out of it.

In the meantime feel free to write comments (only our Soulstrology gang see them, this is protected content so not a public forum) and I will answer your questions and comments as best I can.

And do listen to a Soulstrology Soundbath or two.

Whether it is Chiron for healing, Earth for grounding, Pluto for endings/rebirth or good ole Venus and Earth (the one I put out at the Fall Equinox) they will all help you to ground, go within and find the answers.

We all deserve to be valued. But as with everything, it starts with us, so value yourself so you can be valued.

Ps if you’re in LA, come join me this Friday at Wanderlust for a Soulstrology Soundbath as Venus turns retrograde and prepare for the New Moon!


Ambi x


Aries: Joint finances of all sorts, sex, intimacy, transformation and death

Taurus: Partnerships of all kinds, platonic, professional and romantic

Gemini: Daily routine, work and lifestyle. Health - mind, body and soul

Cancer: Love/romance, fun, self-expression, creativity, hobbies, children - yours or others

Leo: Domestic/family life and home - who, what and wear means home to you

Virgo: Your mind, communication, your voice in all formats including related projects, neighbors, siblings, your local community

Libra: Your personal finances and income, your possessions, your values - who and what you value and your self-esteem

Scorpio: Your identity, personal appearance and autonomy, how others view you

Sagittarius: Healing, the hidden, your subconscious mind, work you do in private, secrets

Capricorn: Friendships, groups you belong to and causes you support - your soul tribe. Your hopes, wishes and dreams for the future

Aquarius: Career, ambition, success and status. Ultimately your soul's legacy

Pisces: Spirituality, religion, higher learning, foreign places and people, legal matters, publishing



Aries - partnerships and close relationships of all sorts - romantic, platonic and professional.

Taurus - your daily routine/lifestyle and health - mind/body/soul

Gemini - love and romance, children - yours and/or others, fun, self-expression and creativity

Cancer who what and where you consider home, family, your childhood, domestic life

Leo - your mind, communication, your voice in all formats - including related projects, siblings, neighbors, short trips

Virgo- your income, your possessions, your personal finances, your values (who and what you value in life) and your self-esteem

Libra - your identity, the very essence of who you are, how people see you/your appearance

Scorpio - healing and hibernation, secrets, your subconscious mind, secret projects, what you keep hidden (including the hidden you) endings and completion

Sagittarius - your tribe, friendships, groups you belong to, causes you support, your most cherished hopes, wishes and dreams for the future

Capricorn - success, career, ambition, your status, your public legacy

Aquarius - spirituality/religion/higher learning, legal matters, travel, foreign places and people

Pisces - joint projects and finances, merging, sex and transformation that comes through merging